What to Do When Parents and Teachers Clash

Parnell (Admin) Maret Oct 24,2016 Comments(2) Likes(1) Parenting

What to Do When Parents and Teachers Clash


It’s inevitable; whenever more than one person is in charge of a single task, there are going to be disputes. When it comes to your child, anyone stepping on your toes is likely to get an earful. When that someone is your child’s teacher, however, it can be difficult to know how to respond.


Parents and teachers aren’t always going to agree, so how do you handle clashing perspectives without upsetting or disrupting your child’s stability?


Communicate and Listen


As a dad, you know your child pretty well. What you don’t know though, is how your child really behaves in class. In order to reach a reasonable solution, you have to be willing to speak openly with the teacher. This includes listening to what they have to say, even if you don’t agree with it.


For instance, if the teacher believes your child is disrupting class and you don’t think that behavior sounds like your child, don’t ignore what’s being said. Listen and understand that there could be a reason your child is acting out of the ordinary. Ask questions about the situation, such as whether they are being picked on by other kids to try to get to the bottom of the issue.


Be Ready to Compromise


You might not like a teacher’s suggestion, and they likely won’t love yours. If the teacher thinks your child needs a severe punishment and you think they don’t deserve to be punished at all, meet them in the middle. Remember, whether it seems that way or not, you are both there to help and support your child, and encouraging good behavior in school is important in helping your child develop into a successful student and adult.


Show You’re Committed


While you might only have one kid, teachers have classrooms full of them. Many times when they try to resolve problems, parents brush them off, and the problem gets worse. Show the teacher you’re ready to partner with them to tackle any challenges your child is facing or causing. They’ll really appreciate seeing you care about your kid enough to take their classroom issues seriously and be much more willing to compromise with you in the future.


Develop a Plan


Leaving meetings with vague tactics on what you’re going to do often leads to parents not following through. Instead, work with the teacher to set deadlines and goals for improving your child’s behavior. Think of what will happen if the behavior doesn’t improve and consider acting on the teacher’s initial punishments or suggestions if your child doesn’t meet a goal. This gives you a chance to allow your child to improve willingly and lets the teacher know you aren’t playing games.


You’re never going to agree with someone else’s ideas for what is best for your child, but when that person is a teacher, be sure to really listen to what they’re saying. They’ve been through this before and tend to know what works and what doesn’t.



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